A Christmas Letter From A Child With Autism.

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A Letter From A Kid With Autism.

As we all know, Christmas is a beautiful thing.  If a member of your family has Autism, it can be challenging.  It can be stressful for all parties involved.

My friends at The Autism Society of Greater Orlando wants to remind everyone be kind, loving, and understanding.  ASGO was kind to provide a letter that any family dealing with Autism should email to their family prior to the holiday.   Let call it “Christmas Through The Eyes of Autism”.  Remember, sharing is caring.

LETTER

Dear Family and Friends,

I understand that we will be visiting each other for the holidays this year! Sometimes these visits can be very hard for me, but here is some information that might help our visit to be more successful.

As you probably know, I am challenged by a hidden disability called autism or what some people refer to as a pervasive developmental disorder (PDD).

Autism/PDD is a neurodevelopmental disorder which makes it hard for me to understand the environment around me. I have barriers in my brain that you can’t see but which make it difficult for me to adapt to my surroundings.

Sometimes I may seem rude and abrupt, but it is only because I have to try so hard to understand people and at the same time, make myself understood. People with autism have different abilities: some may not speak, some write beautiful poetry. Others are whizzes in math (Albert Einstein was thought to be autistic), or have difficulty making friends. We are all different and need various degrees of support.

Sometimes when I am touched unexpectedly, it might feel painful and make me want to run away. I get easily frustrated, too. Being with lots of other people is like standing next to a moving freight train and trying to decide how and when to jump aboard. I feel frightened and confused a lot of the time, like you would if you landed on an alien planet and didn’t understand how the inhabitants communicated. This is why I need to have things the same as much as possible. Once I learn how things happen, I can get by ok. But if something, anything changes, then I have to relearn the situation all over again! It is very hard.

When you try to talk to me, I often can’t understand what you say because there is a lot of distraction around. I have to concentrate very hard to hear and understand one thing at a time. You might think I am ignoring you–I am not. Rather, I am hearing everything and not knowing what is most important to respond to.

Holidays are exceptionally hard because there are so many different people, places and things going on that are out of my ordinary realm. This may be fun and adventurous for most people, but for me, it’s very hard work and can be extremely stressful.

I often have to get away from all the commotion to calm down. It would be great if you had a private place set up to where I could retreat.

If I cannot sit at the meal table, do not think I am misbehaved or that my parents have no control over me. Sitting in one place for even 5 minutes is often impossible for me. I feel so antsy and overwhelmed by all the smells, sounds, and people–I just have to get up and move about. Please don’t hold up your meal for me–go on without me and my parents will handle the situation the best way they know.

Eating in general is hard for me. If you understand that autism is a sensory processing disorder, it’s no wonder eating is a problem! Think of all the senses involved with eating: sight, smell, taste, touch AND all the complicated mechanics that are involved with chewing and swallowing that a lot of people with autism have trouble with. I am not being picky — I literally cannot eat certain food as my sensory system and/or oral motor coordination are impaired.

Don’t be disappointed if mommy hasn’t dressed me in starch and bows. It’s because she knows how much stiff and frilly clothes can drive me buggy! I have to feel comfortable in my clothes or I will just be miserable! Temple Grandin, a very smart adult with autism, has taught people that when she had to wear stiff petticoats as a child, she felt like her skin was being rubbed with sandpaper. I often feel the same way in dressy clothes.

When I go to someone else’s house, I may appear bossy and controlling. In a sense, I am being controlling because that is how I try to fit into the world around me (which is so hard to figure out!) Things have to be done in a way I am familiar with or else I might get confused and frustrated. It doesn’t mean you have to change the way you are doing things — just please be patient with me and understanding of how I have to cope…mom and dad have no control over how my autism makes me feel inside.

People with autism often have little things that they do to help themselves feel more comfortable. The grown ups call it “self regulation,” or “stimming’. I might rock, hum, flick my fingers in my face, flap my arms or any number of different things. I am not trying to be disruptive or weird. Again, I am doing what I have to do for my brain to adapt to your world.

Sometimes I cannot stop myself from talking, singing, or partaking in an activity. The grown ups call this “perseverating” which is kind of like self-regulation or stimming. I do this only because I have found something to occupy myself that makes me feel comfortable, and I don’t want to come out of that comfortable place and join your hard-to-figure-out-world. Perseverative behaviors are good to a certain degree because they help me calm down.

Please be respectful to my mom and dad if they let me “stim” for a while as they know me best and what helps to calm me. Remember that my mom and dad have to watch me much more closely than the average child. This is for my own safety, preservation of your possessions, and to facilitate my integration with you tippies (what we autistics fondly call you neurotypical folk!) It hurts my parents’

Hurricane and Preparation For Kids with Autism.

Let’s Face it. A Hurricane is scary.  Now imagine, the individual you care for is diagnosed on the Autism spectrum.  That right, Autism.  These individuals needs are often the last to be considered when you think of Hurricanes Preparedness.  Not no more.  Custom Fence Orlando and The Autism Society of Greater Orlando have teamed up to remind us all, don’t forget the needs of those kids or individual diagnosed with Autism.   Below are 5 things to consider before that Hurricane hits: Don’t delay. Do it Today.

Five Big Things To Consider When Preparing An Individual With Autism For A Hurricane.

  1. Google the special need shelter in your county, Now.   It just might save a life.   You have to be registered prior to showing up. 
    1. Orange County Special Needs Registry
    2. Seminole County Special Needs Registry.
    3. Lake County Special Needs Registry. 
    4. Polk County Special Needs Registry. 
    5. Volusia County Special Needs Registry.
  2. Start packing at the watch and not the warning.  Pack those special Items such as medicines, important documents, and dietary requirement.
    1. Don’t forget all those documents: IEP, Diagnosis, and Medical records.
    2. Don’t forget that comfort food
  3. Prepare to explain through social stories and what to exactly what expect.
    1. Don’t run from it.  Explain it from start to finish.
    2. Describe what is exactly going to happen.  Use pictures
  4. Have a car charger and multiple battery backup for those smart devices.
    1. Do not rely on generators. They are odorless and kill.
  5. Emergency Plan.  Establish a play by play scenario and practice it.   Especially, if you chose to stay.
    1. What happen if
    2. Remember, individual with autism love routine.

Need More.  Listen to Kip Hudakoz as he discusses hurricane preparedness on the Pool Fantic Radio Show live on News 96.5 WDBO.